November 11, 2015
Thinking of the many little fights we always have, I am certain that you will be more thrilled to receive a message from Papa. As a patient witness to our constant bickering, however, Papa thinks otherwise. It just dawned on me that this is your first time away from home and family. Quite honestly, I am happy. It’s not because your absence saves me from getting more wrinkles, but it’s because I am finally giving you your freedom to enjoy and reflect on every aspect of your life.
The cause of our little conflicts is always your baby brother. However, I know that deep inside, you love your brother so much and that you are prouder of him more than we are. I just want you to be extra patient with his naughtiness because I want him to remember you always as a very understanding and affectionate “ate”….so that when we’re gone, the both of you will not feel the loss of a mother and a father because you have each other to lean on. For that, while we can still say it, we thank you so much. And I am sorry for my imperfections as a mother. It’s a blessing that you have the best Papa in the world to compensate for my weaknesses.
I guess you hate having a teacher-mother because of unwanted lectures. My incessant nagging does not mean that I love you less. I hope you’ll realize that it’s just my way of helping you become the best person you can be. With much energy, I always love telling you how I wallowed in an indescribable poverty when I was your age not for you to experience my grief but to use my experiences to fuel your own journey.
Papa and I do not live in a nonsensical fantasy of you and Ethan having luxurious lives in the future. However, we do think that it’s not a crime for parents to wish their children a comfortable life so that they may be able to provide for their own future family. We may not be able to give you everything your well-off classmates have (though you don’t complain) because it’s a luxury we cannot afford but we are thankful to God that, unlike us, you have never slept with a growling stomach and that we are able to send you both to a private school. Remember, however, that the hardest battle you’ll ever fight is against yourself. As William Ernest Henley said in his Invictus, “I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul”. With this, Papa and I want to end this letter by saying don’t just fly, soar high! We love you, our only baby girl.
Mama and Papa
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